Monday, January 8, 2007

right or wrong in a relationship

Now i do not wonder why poeple go down with thier principles, close thier eyes to logic. Its to seek so called "happiness" whose base is placed somewhere outside themself. With this faulty source, they naturally have to compromise on thier own self. Despite knowing the fact that compromise is death, they go for it in search of happiness. They define happiness to be something like "make others happy and u become happy". Whats faulty in this argument is the fact that base of whole structure is wrong. Its for "others" that "you" are doing things. To make "them" happy is to compromise on self. And this case is okay if "they" are just like you in which case there isnt a compromise. But the case where you see them different clearly and still go on pacifying them, its poisoning the true nature of the relationship. A relationship stands on pillars of truthfulness to self. Compromise betrays that nature and hance actually harms the relationship more thn it can strengthen it. Thus compromise ultimately poisons the relationship and brings death to it. "They" feel this poison soon after a compromise when one feels that the man/woman doing the compromise is bucking down. If he/she can buck down in these circumstances thn he/she can buck down in other circumstances. And hence he/she isnt relaiable man/woman. Loosing relaiability looses the trust which holds that relationship and hence it starts to corrode. In this process of corrosion, the person who has compromised on first hand, also feel betrayed since he/she thinks that my compromise isnt been given enough respect since the other persondo not trust me anymore. A vicious circle is being completed which ultimately leads to end of relationship.
So instead of compromises, relationships should be based on doing right things. Even if it means harming ur near and dear ones if they are different. This way you can preserve ur own individuality. Even if they get annoyed for your decisoons, deep inside they still know that you are correct for being youself. Deep inside they respect you and they know that you do not seek thier appreciation for self. All you stand for is right things.
Things are not easy and difficult, they are only right or wrong.

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